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Becoming a Single Parent
Two years ago, when my daughter was 4-years-old, and my son was just barely 2-months-old, I made the decision to leave my husband and move out of the house we had shared for more than 11 years.
I remember walking into our new “temporary home”, with my daughter and newborn, and feeling completely overwhelmed. The house we moved into was built in the 1950s and had super filthy floors (which is so not what you want with a newborn), glitchy electrical issues, and there was a giant gap under the front door, which let in a steady supply of creepy spiders.
Housing issues aside, I felt like my whole world had just collapsed. I left the comfort and security of the home that I had loved for over a decade. I was simultaneously trying to understand how I felt about the collapse of a relationship that I had invested 11 years in.
And I was 2 months postpartum, with a colicky baby and a child about to start kindergarten, trying to figure out how to be mom AND dad.
Learning to Manage Expectations
Prior to becoming a single parent, I may to have tried be a super over-achieving wife and mom. I was working a full-time job, while attending graduate school, and trying to make sure to balance work and school with my home life.
To me, being a “good wife” and “good mom” meant having a clean home and making homemade (preferably organic) meals from scratch every night.
Once I was a single parent, it was impossible to keep the grueling schedule. I was sleeping 4 hours a night, and was absolutely exhausted. Something HAD to give.
The Moment I said Yes to being an Imperfect Single Parent
A few weeks into being a single parent, I decided enough was enough. I abandoned the expectations I had placed on myself to be the perfect single parent.
I looked at all of things I did on a daily basis, and decided what was truly important, and what wasn’t.
I decided it was okay to leave dishes in the sink overnight.
I decided it was okay to leave the living room a mess.
I decided it was okay to go to work with my hair in a bun.
One of the most helpful things I did was abandon the idea that I needed to make a homemade meal from scratch, every night.
I learned to let some things go, so I could enjoy my life. It gave me the time I needed to also enjoy spending time with my children.
How Things Are Today
Today, my life looks radically different than it did two years ago! I moved my family into a new home (complete with a solid front door!), I’m in a relationship with an amazing guy, and I’ve developed a routine for my family that actually works.
We’ve implemented chore charts so the kids can help pitch in with the house cleaning.
We make time for joy – like watching movies together on Friday nights, and walking to the park on Sunday afternoons.
With Well Yes! Soups, I can ensure that my family is getting delicious soups that are made with nutritious ingredients, like sweet potatoes quinoa and kale.
I also feel safe knowing that there are never add artificial flavors or colors, and that the soups are made with non-gmo ingredients and non-bpa lined cans.
With a variety of delicious, carefully crafted flavors to choose from, I can satisfy all the tastes differences in my family. Our favorite flavors are Roasted Chicken with Wild Rice, Black Bean with Red Quinoa, and Hearty Lentil with Vegetable.
By implementing a few changes in our daily lives, and saying Yes to being an imperfect single parent, I feel I am a much better parent today.
I am happier and my children are happier, and there is nothing more important than that.
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